The other night I was driving a van of ten junior high boys home after a skate session. We were waiting at a stoplight when a young lady walked by our van in a bathing suit. 

Immediately, a few of the boys began to whistle, hoot, and yell out a wide variety of comments I pray I never hear from my sons.

For some of you,  if you heard those comments sitting around a table with friends, you might not think much about them.

But if you were a young lady, crossing a street, alone late at night, hearing them come from a van of men you can’t see, I imagine it would be terrifying.

You could feel like a victim.

Our van immediately had an extremely strong conversation.

That situation still bothers me today, and has caused me to wrestle with a number of questions…

Why do some boys think it is okay to objectify women in this way?

Where do people learn to objectify others like this?

My van was filled with junior high boys from church and with their youth leader. How do they act when they are simply with their peers? How will they act five years from now?

What would happen if alcohol was added to the mix?

And the really big question: What always results in the victimization of both the user and others in their lives?

Pornography.

Because porn is never private.

It creates a culture where young boys learn that it’s okay to objectify young women.

It creates a culture where young women are conditioned to think their victimization is just “boys being boys”. 

Porn creates a culture with more victims in more places.

That’s what happens when the culture’s sexual ethic is primarily driven by porn.

That’s why it’s essential that you and your youth ministry tackle the problem of porn.

Because if you can help students now you are protecting other women from being victimized later. You might be helping save a marriage. You might be helping save a generation.

Because the truth is, pornography is never private.

Do you find it difficult to address the issue of pornography in your context as a youth worker?  Why?  Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the magnitude of the problem?

That’s why we have created a 7-session curriculum on pornography designed for use by small group leaders.

To help your students understand their own journey, understand the journey of unseen victims of porn, and understand the journey of confession, forgiveness, and wholeness because of the Gospel.

Think of a student in your ministry.

What could be the consequences of her life, if no one ever talks to her about God’s design for sex?

What if no one told him how porn is an evil counterfeit experience

What could be the consequences 10 years from now if no one shows him a better way?

What difference could it make for her family (now and down the road), if someone took the time to journey with her in a loving and gracious mentoring relationship, helping her experience the freedom she never thought possible?

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